How do I talk to my parent about driving?
Driving is about freedom, so this talk is hard. Steps that help older drivers stay safe, how to start the talk, and other ways to get around.
Start with safety, not age
Talk about what you have seen, like near misses, new dents, or getting lost. Ask how they feel about driving. Plan more than one talk.
Your parent's doctor can help. Ask the doctor to talk about driving at the next visit.
Steps that help older drivers stay safe
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) suggests a few steps. Ask a doctor or pharmacist to review all medicines for side effects. Get an eye exam at least once a year, and wear glasses if needed. Stay active to keep strength and flexibility.
On the road, wear a seat belt. Drive in daylight and good weather. Plan the route. Leave space behind the next car. Avoid alcohol and anything that takes your eyes off the road.
The CDC's free MyMobility Plan helps a person plan how to stay safe and get around as they age.
Other ways to get around
Medicare does not pay for rides to the doctor, except by ambulance when needed. Medicaid may give rides to people who qualify. Some Medicare Advantage plans add rides. See does Medicare pay for rides?.
For local rides and other help, call the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116.
Checklist
- Write down what you've seen, with dates.
- Ask your parent's doctor to talk about driving.
- Ask a doctor or pharmacist to review all medicines.
- Book a yearly eye exam.
- Make a list of ride options before you ask them to drive less.
Common questions
Is there an age when people must stop driving?
No single age. What matters is how safely a person drives. Talk about what you've seen, and ask their doctor to help.
What can help an older driver stay safe?
A review of all medicines, a yearly eye exam, staying active, and driving in daylight and good weather.
How will my parent get around if they stop?
Family, local ride programs, and sometimes Medicaid or a Medicare Advantage plan. Call the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116 for local options.
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Sources (3)
- CDC — Older adult drivers (retrieved Oct 26, 2026)
- CDC — MyMobility Plan (retrieved Oct 26, 2026)
- Medicare.gov — Long-term care (rides and other help)
This guide is general information, not medical, legal, or financial advice. Confirm details with the provider, your plan, or a licensed professional.